Co-executor conflict is not a sign that the family is broken. It is a sign that two people have inherited different feelings about the same loss and are now being asked to make decisions through them. Structure around the disagreement is usually what moves things forward, not litigation.
Step one: separate the legal from the emotional
Most co-executor disputes have two layers: a legal disagreement ("we can't both sign the listing agreement") and an emotional one ("you weren't there for the last six months and now you want to sell"). Address the emotional layer first, ideally with a third party — a family therapist, mediator, or attorney trained in family systems work.
Step two: get the numbers on the table
Most family conflict over inherited property is actually conflict over uncertainty. "What is the home worth?" and "What would it cost to fix?" are answerable questions. A reconstruction cost analysis from an independent advisor and a comparative market analysis from an estate-property broker turn an argument into a spreadsheet.
Step three: the structured 30-day decision
If, after numbers are on the table, you still can't agree, propose a structured 30-day process: each co-executor writes a one-page proposal, you exchange them, you meet (with a mediator if available), and you commit to a decision by the end of the window. The deadline is what creates the decision.
When to escalate
If 30 days doesn't resolve it, the estate is genuinely stuck and you need legal help. A petition for instructions can ask the court to break the tie; a petition to remove a co-executor is heavier and rarely the right first move. Choose the lighter tool.
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